Unconditional Love

Marriage today is not anything like it was centuries ago. Today most people cringe at the thought of marriage. I’m not sure what changed the whole value of the word, but it definitely is not the same when I was younger. Being married in this century is mostly about show. Well, at least in my opinion.

Women expect more nowadays than they did back when I got married. I have been married for 35 years and it hasn’t been easy. The struggles I have gone through to keep my marriage together would blow your mind. But here I am doing what I was never taught. I had to learn to keep my marriage on my own. I had to learn not to give up. I had to learn to fight for this sacred vow of mine. I took it seriously the day I said “I DO” and I still take it seriously. I am in this MARRIAGE for better or worse.

There is no judgment from me if you choose to give up and feel there is nothing left of your marriage, but from experience I have been there and I am glad I didn’t give up. Yes, do I sometimes need to vent because my husband has made me feel angered, I DO. I vent, get it off my chest, brush off the remnants of that anger and figure out how to move on and correct the problem. Sometimes it takes some doing and mentally getting myself together to keep on going. This process makes me stronger and better as a person and a wife.

I haven’t been the perfect wife, but I know I am the wife that will always remember the vow I took. The ones that know the continued saga from the start have told me to leave, asked me how do I stay, what keeps you there. It’s ME, I keep myself there because I promised my husband on that day in October that I will honor, love and for better or worse stay with him. I do love him, he’s my husband. Does he make me crazy, YES most definitely. Do I feel like running? Somedays. Will I ever run? No.

As I look back on our 35 years, I don’t think I would change one moment in our MARRIAGE. The good, the bad, the ups, the downs, the mistakes, the corrections, the sadness, the happiness, the hate and the love we have endured, makes a MARRIAGE. All these years have given us strength to continue loving each other everyday. In such a throw away society, I’m glad we didn’t throw each other away. I’m glad we persevered.

As we continue on this journey called MARRIAGE I hope in the years to come we will be a testament to those who are struggling and wanting to give up their marriage. I hope everyone who marries finds the one they will live with until death do you part. Hold sacred this thing called MARRIAGE, if it’s not for you and you have second thoughts, just don’t do it. Prepare yourself for eternity and love with all your heart.

Marriage is just not the wedding day with flowers, dancing and whirlwind. It’s an open canvas waiting for you to write the story. Make your story worth telling even if it’s not a perfect fairytale, you have the pen, you write the book, it’s your MARRIAGE make it work.