Unconditional Love

During a conversation this word was brought up. Although you may think it was in a good way, it was not. Do people really feel my husband is not motivated? Does this really cross some peoples minds? You know what he has been through, all the struggles he has endured and you feel he ISN’T motivated? My question to you is….how can you be sure that someone who is literally dying be motivated or not?

His motivation to live is enough I would think. His will to be here is the MOTIVATION you lack to see. Just because someone can’t work or has a hard time doing anything does NOT mean they are any less motivated than you. I pray that you never have to be in this position, I pray you never have to go through any medical turmoil in your life. This life he has been handed is not easy for him or for anyone that has to go through it. Just know when he gets out of bed each morning that’s MOTIVATION.

I want my husband to be more involved in life and enjoy a lot more, but how can you ask someone to enjoy what was once a good life and now is a struggle each and everyday. Yes, I wish he could get better. Yes, I wish we could do more. Yes, I complain sometimes about not being able to do things, but I also thank God for the good days and bad. It just hurt me to the core when I heard the words come out of your mouth. You are not living this life and you have no clue. Don’t assume you know what he has or doesn’t have. Walk a day in his shoes and tell me how you feel than.

Most people are looking in at our situation and judging what they think they see or know, the fact of the matter is you truly have NO idea the daily struggles we are faced with. If you see me doing all the work and Joe sitting there, it’s not because he won’t do it or is not motivated. He sat in the chair while I did all the yard work because he couldn’t stand up for more than 5 minutes without feeling like he was going to pass out. His stomach hurts him 24/7 and he throws up almost everyday. He sits because I tell him too, he sits because if he falls it’s a hospital admission, he sits because he truly can’t do the physical work. His heart is damaged beyond repair and it makes it harder to do anything for a long period of time. He tries and that’s motivation enough.

Stop the judgement and take a look on the inside of his life. Dying isn’t easy and living is even harder for him. He can only do what he’s able and if you see that as lack of motivation, shame on you. I wish people would keep their comments to themselves. I already cut people out, do you want to be next. So over this whole situation.